Stress & Your Libido
The Female Libido
The female libido will change naturally based on many individual factors. Women will vary in their particular views about optimal amounts of sex. However, there are many factors that influence these views that really have nothing to do with desire, including poor body image, fatigue, lack of emotional intimacy, hormonal imbalance and stress.
Low Libido Defined
Low libido can really only be defined by the individual. However, it is defined in medical terms as the consistent presence of not wanting sexual interactions that causes the individual personal distress or problems. Stress is usually one contributing factor to the presence of low libido.
Sex Should Be a Stress Reliever
Sex is a great stress reliever, which is, paradoxically, detrimental to the female libido. When the presence of stress is caused by feelings of being overloaded or overwhelmed, it is typically associated as a sexual hindrance. It is even possible for the nicest touch from an individual you love to seem annoying or bothersome. During these times, the idea of putting forth any effort or energy into sexual activity may not seem to be the most suitable choice.
The female mind is complex and can often be overwhelmed and stressed with all of the daily activities that must be accomplished: work, the kids, finances, dinner, homework, etc. The female mind must want sex to prepare for it.
Sexual arousal is an essential factor to great sex, as certain vaginal fluids must be created for the accommodation of penetration. When the female mind is "not in the mood," these fluids are not created and sex can be painful and uncomfortable. This, then, creates a negative association with sexual contact, which creates yet another reason for your mind to not want sex. Combating stress to regain your want for sex is the first step to increasing your overall libido.
Tips to Enhance Your Libido
There are certain methods that have been shown to increase overall libido in women. However, each women is unique and will have individual preferences. Therefore, you must determine what is best for you.
- Communication: Often times, discussing your stressful situation with your significant other can help. If you feel that your partner understands your point of view this can decrease overall tension, decreasing stress.
- Create the Mood: Environmental factors can play a key role in mood enhancement. Try lighting a few candles, dimming the lights, playing some romantic music, and eliminating distractions to achieve the perfect romantic ambiance
- Foreplay: There are certain aspects of foreplay that can serve to relieve stress. Give your significant other a massage or run a hot bath. This will serve to increase blood flow while decreasing stress levels.
- Relax: Avoid un-necessary stressful factors, and take the time to just relax.
- Make Time: It may be necessary to schedule time for sex in your life. This is not boring or predictable, but a matter of prioritizing the various elements of a healthy lifestyle.
- Counseling: Sometimes, talking to a professional sex counselor or therapist may be an option. Therapy can provide educational
- Lifestyle Changes: Find ways to deal with stress to enhance your sex drive. Happier individuals have happier sex lives.
- Exercise: Regular exercise can do wonders for a low libido including increasing overall stamina, reducing stress, elevating mood, and improving you view of your body image.
- Herbal Supplements: Taking a daily herbal supplement can greatly increase your libido.