"All My Single Ladies!!!" Do We Still Need Men?
I am physically and emotionally tired of trying to have romantic relationships with men. In saying this, I admit something is wrong with me; I’ve been divorced twice at the age of 33, once from an alcoholic and once from a serial cheater - obviously, I give out the wrong signals. I lack confidence and possess an ugly relationship naiveté - I attract men with poor intentions. Or, they have the right intentions, but they dramatically change after meeting me.
I've Given up on Love
At any rate, I’ve given up on love. For most of my life, I’ve harbored dreams of a two-story house, white picket fence, and 2.5 kids running around the backyard with a Labrador nipping at their heels. Of course, this scene would only be complete with an adoring husband who listens to me, makes me laugh, and lets me cry. In turn, I would lavish him with love and affection.
Those dreams are shattered, though, because I can’t imagine finding my “soul mate” at this point in my life. The men I’ve met of late are obsessed with Facebook, texting, and women who have creamy complexions and willowy bodies. I have neither, so now I'm left wondering if it’s possible to lead a happy and fulfilling life without a man.
Do We Need Men?
Apparently, other women are asking this same question, and the rapid, resounding answer is yes. Spurred by a book titled, The End of Men And the Rise of Women, by Hanna Rosin, an ever-growing number of females are looking for and finding a room (or condo) of their own. In her book, Rosin explores the shifting dynamics in opposite-sex relationships as women begin to gain on men in the workplace and society. This concept has enormous implications for love, marriage, and child-rearing, as women begin to question the need for men.
Techniques like cloning and cellular reprogramming suggest we don’t need men, at least biologically speaking. But the human race may become significantly weaker without babies born of one man and one woman. As such, women like me who are ready to jump on the solitary bandwagon may need to think twice, for scientists caution that males are still vital to human survival.
Every time a new baby is born, half the genes come from mom and half from dad. When this dynamic is spread over an entire population, this gives children new genetic combinations to help them survive emerging challenges. A good example of this is sickle cell disease; people who inherit two versions of a certain gene, one each from mom and dad, develop this painful and often fatal disease. But those who get just one version have a gene that helps their red blood cells resist infection by the malaria parasite.
Males also carry genes important for a process called imprinting, and this DNA is extremely important for the proper development of mammals in the womb – especially humans. This is essential for the proper development of the placenta, the organ that nourishes a developing embryo and fetus. Scientists figured this out after many cloned animals were born abnormally large, which can lead to fatal heart conditions and organ failure.
Armed with this information, is it possible for men and women to live peacefully together once more? I’m not sure. I wish someone would tell me what men want; I might be able to rightfully foster a relationship if I knew. Greg Hodge, CEO of Beautiful People, states under no uncertain terms that men just want to feel like heroes. He writes, “So much is satisfied in men if you empower them to feel like heroes. You will reap the benefits.”
In light of this, it would seem men, at the very least, still need women, if for no other reason than to boost their egos. Maybe we can all live together in harmony, if we just treat each other with compassion and respect.
Fox, Maggie. "Here's Why You Really Do Need a Man." Health on Today. Today. Web. 5 Dec. 2012.
Hodge, Greg. "What Do Men Really Want? Who Cares!" The Huffington Post. Web. 5 Dec. 2012.