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Many people who are considered infertile, or to have fertility challenges, may feel like failures as humans. Reproducing is sort of thought to be a natural, simple thing, and it's easy to think that when we see so many unexpected and unplanned babies being born everyday.

Whatever the reasons for fertility troubles, no one needs to feel like a failure. There are so many other wonderful things that we can do with our lives, including adoption! Think of the amazing home a parent can provide if they've had the time to do some traveling, get an education and feel that they've made a positive difference in the world.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

Katie from SLN asked this
July 13, 2011 at 4:39 PM



I am all about adoption! It's a crying shame that there are so many kids out there who need homes, and so many couples who can't have kids - and yet, so often, they don't get matched up. My own life has been really enriched by adoption. My parents already had three kids, but felt they had more love to give, so they adopted my sisters from Russia. I can't imagine my life without them.

I might add, too, that older children often get forgotten when it comes to adoption. In Russia, when kids in the orphanage are sixteen, they have to leave, and they usually don't have any kind of support system. I shudder to think what would have happened to my sisters had my parents not adopted them.

With adoption, you might not go through physical labor, but believe me, the paperwork you have to go through is a "labor" in itself. But like traditional labor, the reward at the end is more than worth it. :)

Laura Hogg answered
July 14, 2011 at 7:35 AM

Yes! Adoption is such a great thing, and I really wish that more people were willing to look to it rather than expensive and sometimes exhausting fertility treatments. I guess one can say just so much when they haven't been trying without success for literally years, but still... adoption just makes so much sense!

And I agree about the older children, though I'm sure there are way more challenges with that. A high school friend of mine got a new brother when we were seniors - he was a 5 year old from Romania:) That family already had 4 kids, but wanted another, and now he's nearly the age we were when he came here, and is doing quite well.

Katie from SLN answered
July 14, 2011 at 8:14 AM

I completely agree :)

It definitely comes with its own set of issues, and may be best for families that already have some children (adopted or otherwise). But my sisters were 12 and 14 when they came over, and I can honestly say that we haven't had any problems to speak of whatsoever.

Ahhh, Romania - be still my heart, I love that country :) (I'm thinking of learning the language, but that's another story!) That's wonderful. It's a shame that they have stopped allowing foreign adoptions, because there are so many kids there who need homes.

Laura Hogg answered
July 14, 2011 at 8:31 AM

i agree with adoption....but for people who find it difficult to have children. i think they its not just that they want a child they also want to prove that they have the ability to have there own biological child so they feel accepted as a woman and dont feel like a failure to there self or other people around them. adoption i guess is kind of giving up on having a child of your own for the time being. i think people want to adopt but they would prefer to have there own biological child. rather than an adopted child because that child even if u bring it up from being 1 min old will not have been made by the couple who cannot conceive and the problem is still there and the feeling of failure is still there but instead of being childless they have an adopted child and the same feelings.

Jadey answered
February 10, 2012 at 10:50 PM
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