5 Things Every Child Needs From Their Father
By Zac Walker
When one has not had a good father, one must create one. Friedrich Nietzsche
Of course, it doesn't take a philosopher to figure out what is the most essential human nature. It is since the dawn of mankind that father plays an essential role in the development of their children, so the fact that children need fathers and that fathers need to be around their kids is a concept ingrained in our DNA.
Nowadays, however, more and more societies have a growing number of fatherless homes, which has devastating effects on virtually all developmental aspects of that society. Indeed, all the negative stats seem to go through the roof in homes where the dad isnt around. These would include children who leave home, fail at school, run away from home, and commit violent crimes such as murder, rape, robberies, and many others when they grow up. Also, the number of suicides and teen pregnancies is disproportionate with people who have not had a father present throughout their developmental period.
In this article, were going to make 5 important points about why fathers and children need each other so badly. As you will see, the bond between fathers and their children is a strong one, so breaking it through divorce, separation, or abandonment can leave far-reaching negative consequences.
Right then folks, without further ado, heres the deal.
5 Things Every Child Needs From Their Father
1) Role Model
Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating ... too often fathers neglect it because they get so caught up in making a living they forget to make a life. John Wooden
The can opener, spider-killer, sports companion, driver, handyman dads do all of these sacred family duties. Thus, theyre not only merely fixing the roof or opening a jar of pickles but also making a role model out of themselves that they kids can look up to.
The need of a child for a role model is so strong that if the dad is not around or present and the kid doesn't grow up to be a criminal, that young adult will seek role models elsewhere whether it's in martial artists, business people, and typically successful self-made men who know how to take care of themselves and their family. ( which is what the father should have done in the first place. It all comes full circle in the end.)
A good example of this would be the businessman Dan Peas crash course in how to stop being a snowflake. On the surface, this course is about helping young business-people get tougher, but what it actually comes down to is he's helping them achieve success in their business fields by being like a father to them.
As a role model, the most important thing is to lead by example. Teach them how to love by loving, how to respect by respecting and how to be disciplined by being it. They can get their attitude and manners by studying you!
I would define a leader as a person who puts the welfare of the group above himself. It's the same thing with fathers. - Etan Thomas
Speaking of the devil, another important role of a father is to coach his kids in a wide variety of skills.
Whether its baseball, football, or some other sort of competitive sport, or something as simple as tying your shoelaces, it is the father that will teach you the ropes of it.
This coaching aspect of fatherhood is not only about teaching the skills the kids will need later on in life, but it's also about bonding. Whether it's building up a model of a train station using some model railway accessories, kicking a football back and forth to each other, or going out camping and trying to salvage the firewood for the campfire, those moments your kids spend learning from you is what is going to stay with them for the rest of their lives.
As a coach, you must let your children know when to move forward or step back, when to fight or withdraw. As a coach you see them differently, a way they cant see. Use this as an advantage and be the master coach!
My father, he was like the rock, the guy you went to with every problem. - Gwyneth Paltrow
Life is full of challenges for all of us, and childhood is probably one of the toughest parts of it because as kids, we are learning how society works and what is good and what is not.
So, if your kid experiences difficulties at school or has other problems, it is you, the father, who will impart the wisdom to tackle the situation in a proper way, so that the child both learns what they should do and doesnt brood or stress over it too much.
4) Sense of Security
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a fathers protection. - Sigmund Freud
and not only a sense of security, but actual security, too.
It is the fathers duty to protect all members of his family, no matter what the cost may be, and in seeing their father defend his wife and kids (whether its actual physical violence or some form of a metaphorical hit) will instill those same values in the little ones, too.
5) Increasing Your Kids Self-Esteem
The world belongs to those who set out to conquer it armed with self-confidence and good humor. - Charles Dickens
All of the aforementioned fatherly duties and responsibilities contribute to the overall level of self-esteem your kids will have. As a father, you must learn how to let your children practice independence.
The way they are treated and taught at home is going to be replicated at school and in other places. It's no wonder that kids who feel loved, protected, and patiently taught the most essential life skills, feel more confident when they go outside their home and interact with other kids.
All in all, fatherhood is just as important as motherhood for the children are in question. So, for all of you young fathers and those who are about to become fathers stick around, be a role model, and instill in your kids the spirit of fighting and never giving up.