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August 11, 2011 at 8:00 AMComments: 6 Faves: 0

When You Lose Your Parents


At the age of 13, I lost my father to a car accident.  He was missing for a  month before he was found, and I know that was very difficult for my mother with having 5 of her 6 kids still home.  Now as an adult, I feel so bad for not supporting her more through this time - I just didn't understand everything that she went through until I lost her at the end of May to cancer.  My mother fought a  good fight, she battled cancer for 6 years.  She was such an anchor to my family, we went to her for everything. 

Every morning I would call her before coming to work, we would talk about the morning and how she was doing, and then - at the end of the call - she would always pray with me.  How much I looked forward to that and how I miss it so much!  She was my inspiration to always be the best that I can be, to be kind to others, and to treat them with respect.  She had so much wisdom, it didn't matter what I was going through in life she was always there.  Through the birth of each of my children she was there with me, helping me a couple of weeks before and a week or two after!  I was the luckiest and most blessed girl around! 

Now that I find myself without her in my life, I find it very difficult.  It is just really hard to believe, and I feel like an orphan, alone!  I always pray that I can speak to her just one more time! I pray that I'll  dream about her just so that I can keep her close to me!  I know that one day we will be together again, but, until that time comes, I so long for her fellowship and for her wonderful hugs that everything is going to be o.k.! 

I know that I have to just take one day at a time, that is all I can bear. 

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  • Julie, I know that you have this pain and that you long for your time together with your mom. God knows you are hurting and He knows how you feel. He won't let you lose those memories. He'll keep them close in your heart. You need to look forward, not back. It is time to focus your energy toward your children (as I know you do) so you can be their anchor, their inspiration. Take all those good things that your mom was for you and be them for your children. And......when you need a hug let me know.

  • Julie, thanks for sharing this. I am so sorry that you lost your father at such a young age. And your mother to cancer. I know when the time comes for my mother to pass, it will be hard because we were very close, just like you two were! Whenever someone passes away, I try and remind myself the same thing you do: that they are looking down at me from heaven and one day I will see them again. You seem like a very strong woman, Julie. You are always cheerful and smiling. As time passes, it will get easier too. I know saying that doesn't help much, but I'm here if you need anything!

  • Julie,
    You are certainly in our thoughts and prayers. I appreciate that you have you shared your story... by doing so you are making a difference in other people's lives. Encouraging others to savor life and remember how fragile life is. I wish you nothing less than a blanket of love and comfort, one that I am sure your mother's spirit is doing her best to provide you with although you may not always feel her...
    I'm sure you are also making an incredible difference in the life of your children by passing along the behaviors and actions your mom shared with you. By discussing your mom with your family, you will each help one another to remember her and keep all of your memories alive. Memories are certainly not the same, but they are what we have and they can make a world of difference when shared with others who have the same longing.

    Hugs to you,

  • Thank you Julie for sharing this very touching story. God is your strength and your redeemer and i know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he will bring you through this. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. - John 14:18

  • Thanks for your words of encouragement, I know that God places people in our lives to fill the places in our lives where we have a need, as a song depicts that we are God's hand's and feet. We are the one's that carry HIS love, and that is one thing that I carry that my mom did, she gave! I will not look back but go forward in what God has so blessed me with! There is nothing that God will not walk with me through....

  • Julie,
    Jesus is there to touch you and fill you with all his peace. Trust me Jesus cares for you.

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